After reading from many people and learning their various positions, I like to state my position so the world is crystal clear where I stand.
If you are a woman and you hit 40 and you like to have a child, I only advice one thing.
Please adopt a child and raise as your own.
I know many adopted children who are great people today.
My reasons for this advice are as follows:
- I am a Christian. I cannot give any advice that leads to sin. No double standards with God.
- While anonymous sperm donor from a sperm bank is an option, I do not advice it because it might lead to a complicated life for the child, where they refuse to understand with you when he/she grows up to learn that he/she has to live with only one parent because of a decision that you took.
- I can only advice anyone what I wish for my own child. I do not wish for my daughter’s marriage to be complicated because her future husband or current husband was used as an impregnator for someone.
I have 3 sons. I do not wish for their wives to cry in pain because her husband was used as an impregnator.
I wish for all my children to have straight and regular and happy homes.
- I understand that the standards of God cannot be lowered to favour my situation. Sin is sin, no matter my situation or my age.
Finally, I understand that you may have many many diverse arguments why you believe a woman above 40 should sleep with any man (consent or no consent) and have a child.
Please do share your own opinion and position boldly on your wall for the world, for your children, for your God and for all to know where you stand.
This is where I stand and I have boldly shared my position.
Association of it-is-because she is not wearing the shoe, I see you. I love you. I hear you but God doesn’t lower his standards for such excuses.
My position is not open for contention please.
I posted it here for my children to see my position so they are guided even when I pass.
I have only 1 daughter and this is my advice to her. May Heaven bear me witness.
Finally, may whatever we advice others, apply to our children and our loved ones.
May we find the courage to stand for the truth, no matter whose ox is gored.
May we who proclaim that we are Christians be bold enough to truly stand for Christ and for good, when the chips are down.
This is my position as a Christian and an upright woman.
I make bold to say it to the world and to my children.
I, Chioma Ifeanyi-Eze, will never ask a single woman, no matter her age, to sleep with a man, so she can have a child for I know that sin is sin and I will not be a party to it.
Please say your own position to your children and to the world. Your reasons may be valid.
I rest my case.
I love you all!